A couple sessions ago in class we braved into the topics of EMOTION. The conversation seemed very rich to many of us, so much so that upon your request here is some information and resources even book titles & quotes that came up during our conversation. Please feel free to keep the conversation going in the comments section.
What a great class session, we really dove into emotions and came up with some great discoveries in class that we discover effect us in everyday. A couple of things that stood out to me were when Dakota mentioned she often thinks about what other people might be thinking,.. Like she did we were performing at the Boise Center on the grove and she was in wardrobe and every one else was “dressed to the nines” She mentioned she has moments of boldness where she doesn’t care what others think, and then moments where thats what is on her mind (forgive me Dakota for paraphrasing, please feel free to reiterate or clarify)
a couple of thoughts that came to mind during our discussion are listed bellow along with some resources that came up from the evening’s conversation and some others I found afterwards.
The bird and the nest-
It’s not our fault if a bird lands on our head, but it is our fault if it builds a nest. (similar to a quote found by Martin Luther)
Michelle had a similar thought that I unfortunately didn’t write down, Michelle please feel free to add it in the comments.
"Emotions are like elephants,
when riding them they are hard to steer, better to be on top of them then under them."
Brené Brown references: (an expert on the subject of human shame/guilt and self judgment)
Brené Brown wrote a book titled “Daring Greatly”, who’s title came from the bellow excerpt.
This speech here in a way culminates some of the ideas and feelings that we had addressed and talked about.
THE MAN IN THE ARENA
Excerpt from the speech "Citizenship In A Republic"
delivered at the Sorbonne, in Paris, France on 23 April, 1910
download PDF of complete speech
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.
“I thought it was just me” by Brené Brown
An affirming, revealing examination of the painful effects of shame--with new, powerful strategies that promise to transform a woman's abilitiy to love, parent, work, and build relationships.
Shame manifests itself in many ways. Addiction, perfectionism, fear and blame are just a few of the outward signs that Dr. Brené Brown discovered in her 6-year study of shame's effects on women.
Other insight from a speaker I listen to often.
"Are you the emotional type? Or are you more of a thinker? Whether you process life through your emotions or your thoughts, it’s important that you not only understand, but also learn how to manage the way you feel. We are not to be governed by our feelings or make decisions solely based upon them, however we do need them. They help us know what we need, and how to respond to the environment around us. I learned a long time ago that feelings are not right or wrong; they just are. We have to hold them in their proper place in our lives.
One of the main attributes of noble people is their ability to manage their emotions, feelings and passions. Why? Because it’s not what we want that defines us; it’s what we will! Feelings are great servants but terrible masters. While they are extremely valuable, it’s important to recognize that how we feel isn’t always how we are, and what we feel isn’t who we are."
- Kris Vallotton